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The following is a Public Service Announcement based mainly on my experiences. If you interact with me on a regular basis, please read. Some of you may see yourself in one or more of the below statements--I do not want apologies.  I am not upset at anyone. This is an educational tool.   These points are probably relevant to most people who are suffering grief of any kind:

  1. Just because the term “late” proceeds the term “husband”, does not mean it is OK to look at me like a deer in headlights.  That awkward silence can be like a knife to my heart.

  2. He was a large part of my life; I am going to mention him from time to time.

  3. If I bring his name up please do not try to change the topic or avoid the conversation.  It hurts to feel like I cannot bring him up in conversation.

  4. Please do not be afraid of making me sad.  I am usually relieved and touched that someone is willing to talk about him. 

  5. I am always sad about it.  That is never going to change.  You do not “get over” grief.  You just learn to live with it.

  6. There will be times that something will remind me and make me cry or get upset.   This is normal.  This is grief.  Trying to hide it from others or from myself just makes it worse. 

  7. A big cause of stress for me is controlling myself around people that I know cannot handle my grief.

  8. If on the unlikely chance that you say something that upsets me, it is not your fault. I am never going to blame anyone who does me the good grace of talking to me about him.

I have found that this became aggravatingly prevalent just after the first year anniversary.   It continues to be a hard thing to handle.

Time Out

Feb. 25th, 2006 09:27 pm
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[livejournal.com profile] ariesd's problem turned out to be Lithium Toxicity. Not a lot of fun. It took two trips to two different ER's and finally a neurologist to figure it out. He came home on Wed, he's still out of it at times and it may take up to a week or more for him to completely recover, but he's ok.

I apologize to everyone I may have missed today, I know I said I would be at two different gatherings, one I got to very late and the other I missed all together. The ravages of the week just caught up with me I am afraid. I'm at home, watching Sci-Fi Friday on the Tivo and catching up with myself.

Hope everyone had a good time tonight. Be well.

Time Out

Feb. 25th, 2006 09:27 pm
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[livejournal.com profile] ariesd's problem turned out to be Lithium Toxicity. Not a lot of fun. It took two trips to two different ER's and finally a neurologist to figure it out. He came home on Wed, he's still out of it at times and it may take up to a week or more for him to completely recover, but he's ok.

I apologize to everyone I may have missed today, I know I said I would be at two different gatherings, one I got to very late and the other I missed all together. The ravages of the week just caught up with me I am afraid. I'm at home, watching Sci-Fi Friday on the Tivo and catching up with myself.

Hope everyone had a good time tonight. Be well.
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They don't know what is wrong. They are bringing in some specialists to review his medication and a neurologist.

He's still very lethagic, his speech is slurred but he is more easily understood and a little more alert.

Bringing his laptop to him now, so I expect he will be online shortly.
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They don't know what is wrong. They are bringing in some specialists to review his medication and a neurologist.

He's still very lethagic, his speech is slurred but he is more easily understood and a little more alert.

Bringing his laptop to him now, so I expect he will be online shortly.
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[livejournal.com profile] ariesd is in the hospital again. Same mysterious symptons they thought might have been a stroke back in August but finally decided it wasn't... only this time its worse. We thought it might have been an accidental overdose on a new higher dosage of one of his meds, but 27 hours later he is still feeling like crap. Lethargic to no end, slurred speech, unable to focus for long, extremely weak and tired.

So LGH did the full screen of tests, came up empty and have decided to hold him for observation. He is at Lawrence General Hospital in Lawrence, MA.

And on that note...

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!
taura_g: (Default)
[livejournal.com profile] ariesd is in the hospital again. Same mysterious symptons they thought might have been a stroke back in August but finally decided it wasn't... only this time its worse. We thought it might have been an accidental overdose on a new higher dosage of one of his meds, but 27 hours later he is still feeling like crap. Lethargic to no end, slurred speech, unable to focus for long, extremely weak and tired.

So LGH did the full screen of tests, came up empty and have decided to hold him for observation. He is at Lawrence General Hospital in Lawrence, MA.

And on that note...

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!

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