taura_g: (Puppy!)
The last line on [livejournal.com profile] drwex most excellent summation of his views is what I wonder any social community can come to some basic agreement of...

If we cannot find a way to work with each other - despite our different frameworks - to deal with an abuser and social gatherings then we have a pretty deep problem.

In my LiveJournal alone (and I certainly don't have the largest of friends list I know of...), my flist crosses the boundaries of PolyBoston, the local SpinJams, the Burner Crowd, the Kink Community, Community Theater and the MIT Suspects crowd.  More than one of them has struggled with this issue and that is a lot of points of view, a lot of history and a lot of different lifestyles.*

So in an attempt to boil an extremely complex situation and discussion into it's simplest form, I am asking for ideas.

Putting aside recent events and escalating disagreements, how would you want to deal with an abuser and social gatherings within your social circle?

Guidelines to keep in mind:

  1. Don't make specific references to people or history*.

  2. This is in regards to gatherings in private settings, ie a person's home.

  3. One person's friend could be another person's abuser.

*(ETA-Forgot to put this at the bottom) I am a historian at heart and have some very passionate ideas on personal history that I may expound upon in a separate post.
taura_g: (Puppy!)
I may catch holy hell for this, but seriously.   Step away, take a deep breath and calm down.

Speaking as someone who has been a victim of both - The word "Police" is just as polarizing and traumatic as the word "Rape".

There will always be "someone is wrong on the internet".

There will always be someone who disagrees with you.

There will always be tensions and traumas and dramas in life.

Step away for a moment and think about the things in your life you love.

Take a deep breath and be grateful for what you do have.

I love my friends, all of you. 


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