Naturally, on this sex and relationship podcast, many of you are thinking about the Epstein files. One caller used to be a dom/daddy for younger women who sought him out and enjoyed him. Still he feels guilty. And another caller is having their libido crash when they read the news. Meanwhile a straight man has … Read More »
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Dear Readers: I’m off this week. To tide you over until I’m back, the tech-savvy, at-risk youth pulled some classic “PUD” questions from the archives. A PUD, of course, is someone who is “poly under duress.” Because while some start poly and some achieve poly, others have poly thrust upon ’em. These are their stories. … Read More »
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Vanilla. Straight. Cis. Monogamous. How could this story possibly be sexy? A monogamous couple tried a dual massage in a foreign country. Mirrors on the ceiling. Pillows on the bed. Jacuzzi. Steam room. At first they wondered if they were allowed to have sex. They were. Hear the tale! If you have a story you … Read More »
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Struggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments — just a few — from readers and listeners. I also share a letter that won’t be included in the column and invite my readers take a turn giving advice. I’m hosting the HUMP Film Festival in Seattle this weekend — come see me … Read More »
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When does subbing morph into self-harm? The relationship between a man and his much younger trans woman lover involves intense physical abuse. The girl has a wretched history, and engages in self harm. Although she gives consent, there’s also a language barrier that makes everything they do seem out of control and destructive. A bisexual … Read More »
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1. My boyfriend swears he’s cut. I say he’s totally uncut. He insists he was circumcised as an infant. How do I convince him? Some circumcisions are “tight” (all of the foreskin removed) and others are “loose” (most of the foreskin left intact). The looser the circumcision, the more “uncut” a man’s cock might appear. … Read More »
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savagelove_feedStruggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments — just a few — from readers and listeners. I also share a letter that won’t be included in the column and invite my readers take a turn giving advice. Hey, everybody! HUMP 2026 Spring Program opened last night in Seattle — watch the … Read More »
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They designed, engineered and built their own fuck box. Dan’s question: “So did you upholster it?” Hear all about it, how it fit into the sex party and whether they enjoyed it or not. Do YOU have a perverted tale to tell? Write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love.
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Peter Rothpletz is hot shit. The commentary writer has appeared in The New York Times, The New Republic, The Hill, MSNBC, and The Guardian. He is the morning newsletter chief for Mehdi Hasan’s Zeteo, and the Senior Writer and Producer for The Don Lemon Show. When Rothpletz first appeared on Sex & Politics in November … Read More »
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At first I was like "is an Ed Sheeran reference going to make this comic seem dated" but then remembered Ed Sheeran's music sucks no matter what year it is
We briefly had a Tornado Warning in our area, which fortunately was quickly downgraded to a Thunderstorm Warning. Not that we had to be warned about that, it was in fact happening, and it brought with it 80mph winds. It was those winds that just now took out our porch railing.
We’re fine and everything else is fine, minus the power being out, which is a thing happening all over town. If this is the worst that happened around here because of this storm, we’ll count ourselves lucky.
— JS
Sometimes cake shopping is like being stuck in a Fractured Fairy Tale.
Like Snow White, you set out hoping for something "charming," but in the light of day you find yourself stuck with the second string dwarves.
There's Creepy:
Made by the incredibly talented Sarah Jones
"I dare you to cut me."
Queasy:
"I can't believe I ate ITS WHOLE WING."
Crazy:
"WOOLOOLOOOLALALAAAAAAAA!!"
Drippy:
(Queasy's second cousin)
Hairy:
She's planning on using your birthday candles for a waxing later.
Horny:
"Because I have horns, you see. And I'm really Randy.
"(It's short for Randolph. Horny is my ... [sunglasses] ... MIDDLE NAME.)"
And of course, that old favorite:
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Thanks to Stacey, Kimberly C., Carly G., Rachel K., Anony M., Bob B., & Jessica C., who know a picture is worth a thousand words - or in this case, one printable image file.
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I will make up for that with not one, but TWO cute unicorn mugs:
Rainbow Unicorn/Pink Narwhal Coffee Mug
One by land, one by sea!
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And from my other blog, Epbot:
Moray is safety conscious
I am making a deliberate effort to leave my phone as far away from my attention as I can, whenever I am able. I’m not looking at the news, I’m not scrolling the feeds, I’m not posting. I’m leaving it in my pocket, my car, in the kitchen, just … not in my face.
This fits into my efforts to slow down and be more present. It’s creating space I desperately need to decompress, get bored, let my mind wander and come back with a fun and creative idea.
Today, I was out for a minute and saw this little art installation on a telephone pole. It was weathered quite a bit; it’s been here for awhile. And it was beautiful to me. It was a few moments better spent than they would have been looking at anything on my phone, or anything I could have been listening to. It wasn’t dysregulating, it didn’t increase my internal DEFCON level.
I chose to experience and appreciate this thing that someone made when they were very much not thinking about me, because it was exactly where I needed it to be, exactly when I needed it.
I took some pictures (using only the camera and nothing else on the phone) so I could remember the moment, and share the art. They’re pretty big, so I’m gonna put them behind a jump.
Art is so important, y’all. Make time to experience it. Allow it to inspire, comfort, and challenge you.
I love public art, and I love the artists who create and install it. Please support your local arts community.
I’m glad you’re here. If you’d like to get my posts in your email, here’s the thingy:
Hello and thank you for visiting Cake Wrecks, where all of your hopes for humanity are dashed on a daily basis. Sadly, we are unable to meet your humor requirements today due to:
__ Travel
__ Zombie Apocalypse
__ A pack of wild rodents gnawing off our extremities
__ All of the above
X Nap time
Instead, please take this opportunity to entertain yourself by:
- Correcting this cake:
- Guessing what this is supposed to be:
- Brainstorming at least three (3) suitable puns for this:
Always Butterflies: Now with wings!
- Writing a short story to explain this scene:
Suggested title: Revenge of the lobsters
- Leaving a colorful message after the beep.
*beep*
Thanks to Gin M., Lori R., Elaine K., and Anne M. for continuing to hold.
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P.S. Hey fellow book lovers, I just found what may be the prettiest bookmark EVER, check this out:
Metal Feather Charm Bookmark
It's like jewelry for your book! You can choose from gold or silver - or get both, because they're on sale this week for less than $10 each! I won't judge.
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I promised Krissy that I would not buy any new guitars in 2025, and that was a promise I mostly kept (I did buy one guitar, but it was for her). However, it is now 2026, and last month I turned in two full-length books, and I thought therefore it might be okay to treat myself. That said, I pretty much have every guitar I might ever need, in most of the the major body shapes, so if I was going to get any more of them, they needed to fill a niche that was not otherwise occupied.
And, well, guess what? I found two stringed instruments that fit the bill! What a surprise! And as a bonus, neither is technically a guitar.
Small one first: This is an Ohana O’Nino sopranissimo ukulele, “sopranissimo” being a size down from the soprano uke, which is typically understood to be the smallest ukulele that one might usually find. The O’Nino here is seventeen inches long from stem to stern, and is absolutely dinky in the hand. Nevertheless, it’s an actual musical instrument, not a toy, and if you have small and/or nimble enough fingers, plays perfectly well. It’s not going to be anyone’s primary ukulele (I have my concert-sized Fender Fullerton Jazzmaster for that), but if you’re traveling — and I often am — and want to take along a physical music instrument — which I sometimes do! — then this is very much the travel-sized uke to tote around.
There are even smaller ukes available, but those do start being in the “is this a musical instrument for ants” category of things. I’ll stop with a sopranissimo.
Almost literally on the other end of the scale we have the Eastwood BG 64 Baritone Guitarlin. The one type of guitar I did not have in my collection was a baritone guitar (which adds an additional four frets to the guitar on the low end, allowing for a lower/heavier/twangier sound). This particular baritone is one of an esoteric variant of guitar known as a “guitarlin,” in which the guitar adds frets on the high end to be able to access notes that one would only usually find on a mandolin. So, basically, this instrument goes from baritone to mandolin over 35 frets, which is, to be clear, an absolutely ridiculous number of frets to have on a single instrument. I can already see the serious guitarists out there despairing about the intonation in the mando frets, but those people are no fun.
I was traveling when my guitarlin arrived and I haven’t yet been able to play around with it yet, but here’s a short video of the guy who helped design it fooling about with it:
(And yes, I got the one with the tremolo, because of course I did.)
Between these two instruments my collector itch has been scratched for a bit, and I look forward to messing around with both in the upcoming months. I won’t say I won’t get any other guitars ever, but at this point it’s getting more difficult to find where the gaps are in what I have, so I do imagine my acquisitions will slow down rather a bit. Let’s hope, anyway. I’m running out of room in the house for them. Although I guess I do have a whole church, don’t I. Hmmm.
— JS
OK, everyone! It's time to channel your best Eliza Doolittle!
All I want is a womb somewhere
(STAT!)
I wish you people wouldn't stare
(Excuse me! I'm gestating here!)
Maybe a slit right there?
Now, woooouldn't that be loverly?
There'll be leftovers you won't eat
(Hey! This cake was half off!)
Might I suggest a piece wif feet?
(Cannibalism goes down so much better when it's camouflaged.)
Moms are a tasty treat
("Mom-to-be gets the first slice!")
Aren't beeeeelly cakes just...
(hurk)
...loverly?
Wombfelt thanks to Chris W., Angela P., Dotty McK., Nurse Katie, Tia B., Jes R., and Sasha H., who really know how to deliver a great picture.
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And from my other blog, Epbot:
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