The only way to rid yourself of temptation is to yield to it.

First off, where I once regularly hosted open-to-the-community parties somewhat regularly, I am now, almost certainly, not going to do that ever again. That is one sad but basic fact. I don't wish to be held responsible, directly or passively, for someone else's trauma.

As for smaller, specific-invite events, I will make sure that invitees are made aware of the proposed guest list and allow them to make their own decisions. In cases where potential conflicts or triggers arise, I'll be happy to act as intermediary to ensure that parties at odds won't coexist at my events.